The #1 thing you can do to help desperate women in shelters.

Scrolling through Facebook I came across a post for the Women’s Shelter in desperate need for new sheets for women in crisis.  After inquiring into the need I realized that there is an immediate need for 200 “beds in a bag”. When a woman leaves her situation she is greeted with welcome arms to the shelter with new sheets among other items they may not have. So, this might include toiletries and even pajamas.

This got me thinking… How can I help fill this need and show love to a woman in a dark situation? I believe in “love privilege” – that those who receive love and positive support from others have a better rate of success than those who have to live without it. Many of these women do not have this privilege and don’t feel that they have much or any support as they try to escape their situations and rebuild their lives. I felt a spark to help and gather to others help as well.

Anyone who knows me knows that I love Amazon, shopping and helping others in need. Personally, I bought a few sheet sets/bedding sets, my son Zach bought (with his own money) a few sets, and a special shout out to Lauren, Colleen, Maria, Kate, Diane, Marla, and Pat for sending sets as well.  With help from Al, Sarka, and my dad we also took some time to write some inspiring notes for the women in their first night to help ease anxiety and fear. Together we collected 25 beds in a bag. 

Women that seek help from shelters come from all different stages in life, financial situations, professions, ages, cultures, and backgrounds. Women’s shelters are not like homeless shelters where people are “homeless”; they are for women who are in “hopeless” situations – not necessarily living in poverty. A majority of the abuse is not reported to the police. The chart below gives a little insight into why women choose to go to shelters.

Erin (my private nurse) and I were talking about women’s shelters and she shared a story of a woman she knows who left an abusive situation, from a middle class/well off family. She left in a rush to be protected from abuse and the shelter she went to did not have bedding so she slept in her coat crying herself to sleep. This woman left her children because she was so scared for herself but was in constant worry how they were (having no contact with cell phones because of fear of her abuser answering).

Other women take their children with them – but imagine how a mother would feel running from abuse and then not being able to provide simple necessities for their children. As a mother I know that I would do anything for Zach and make sure that he has every necessity. I cannot imagine not being able to give him a comfortable and safe place to sleep.

Here is a little video of our efforts to help so far.

If you are reading this I encourage you to go on Amazon and purchase a sheet set and deliver it to your local women’s shelter. For $20 you can purchase a sheet set, or around $50 you can purchase an entire bed set with a comforter.

For more statistics on shelters please check out the article I referenced

Sheet suggestions:

AmazonBasics Microfiber Sheet Set – Queen, Dutch Blue

AmazonBasics Microfiber Sheet Set – Full, Bright White

AmazonBasics 7-Piece Bed-In-A-Bag – Full/Queen, Dusty Blue Trellis

About The Author

A few months ago, I was told that my boobs are trying to kill me and being misdiagnosed for two years allowed them to recruit throughout the rest of my body by way of my spine. Before this, I knew f*ck all about cancer. Now, between sipping chemo cocktails, I want to talk about the truth of living with Stage 4 Breast Cancer with my support system and people I have met along the way to recovery.

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