When we had a self-help quiz app at Tokii, we were always sharing and thinking about those articles on “Ways to Be Happier”. I don’t remember getting cancer as being one of them on any list.
And yet, here I am, waking up every morning with less stress, more joy and being surrounded by the people I feel closest to. Here are the 10 reasons cancer has made me happier:
1. I Get to Be a Kid Again
Since my diagnosis, my parents have been right here by my side doing EVERYTHING they can to help me. I have my mother cooking for me again. I have my dad telling me stories and watching over me while I fall asleep.
2. I Got a Whole New Bedroom
How many people can say that they have a bedroom that is built to cater to their every need? Well, I have one with big bright windows and plenty of room to have family and friends come to visit.
3. I Get to Wear Crazy and Comfy Clothes
No more needing to look “professional” or “put together”. Now, I genuinely get to wear what I want, when I want. Sometimes that means staying in my PJs all day. Other times, it means dressing up in fun costumes and adding a full face of makeup in wild and bright colours. It is amazingly freeing.
4. I Have Someone There to Help With Anything and Everything
You know that amazing scalp massage that you get at the hairdresser’s a few times a year? I can have it every day from someone who helps me get clean and dressed. I have a dozen people willing to give me a foot rub. I don’t even have to leave my bed to do yoga or eat dinner.
5. I Got a New Puppy
Could there be anything more amazing than having a cute puppy as your newest sidekick? Hope is a mini dachshund and she is always there to warm my heart and bring a smile to my face.
6. My Sisters Are at My Beck and Call
As you grow up with sisters, you’re always looking for that upper hand. Well, I seem to have a lock on it now! Anything I want, my sisters are there for me. All I have to do is ask.
7. I Don’t Have to Worry About Money
My husband is paying my credit card for the first time in our relationship. If that isn’t a sign of love, I don’t know what is!
8. I Don’t Have to Do Things I Don’t Like to Do
No more dishes. No more carrying groceries in from the car. No more housework. No more playing sports and working out. I have a cool walker and a wheelchair and get handicapped parking wherever I go.
9. I Love My Daily Schedule
Between naps, meals and social visits, sometimes I forget that I even have cancer. This is the lowest stress I have ever been on a daily basis. I wake up happier now and look forward to the day ahead.
10. I Am Surrounded By People Who Care
There is nothing like cancer to show you who is really in your corner and cares about you. I have reconnected with many old friends. People tell me their secrets. I met my first neighbour in twelve years and she is so fun! I get emails and messages from awesome people every single day.
The pain is merely a small inconvenience as the radiation eradicated my highest pain points. We are all optimistic that somewhere in the world someone is developing a drug that will keep me not only alive but have quality of life.